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Attention without Intention

As a woman, I've gotten hit on in all kinds of ridiculous ways and heard some of the most outrageous and sometimes even utterly disgusting and disrespectful pick up lines you can imagine. Nothing is really unexpected from guys, but here's the real question: how is it appropriate for a girl to hit on a guy?

I have plenty of male friends, and after talking to a few of them, I have found that even most guys don't know. They don't like it when a girl is too aggressive, yet they rarely catch on to subtle hints.

So what exactly is a girl supposed to do? Look cute in hopes of running in to him? Sneak a letter into his bag asking him out to lunch? Or simply convince herself that if it's meant to be it'll happen?

I'm not one to play games. I actually find them completely immature.

Yet, we all partake in them. Why? Everyone wants to have the upper hand. We want to test others to ensure that we have the power. However, the problem with that is, most of time it's the game-playing and mind-fucking that will drive others away.

The world would be such a better place if everyone was just straight-forward. Games are a waste of time. Just tell it like it is and call it a day. Unfortunately, no one wants to forgo the power over someone else's emotions. Is the power worth playing with someone's feelings? I think not, but I'm sure most would disagree.

The idea of power also makes me question it's effect on people's choices. I've seen far too many amazing people settle for less than they deserve. Although loneliness can be a factor in this, I believe it also has a lot to do with intimidation.

We want someone we can be comfortable with, not someone to compete with. The ones we are attracted to are also the ones that we hesitate to approach. Call it nervousness or intimidation, but deep down it's fear of rejection. Why can't someone attractive also be approachable?

Simply because we like to stereotype and make assumptions.

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