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4.13.2011

The World is Yours

One of the most rewarding feelings, if not the most rewarding, is to volunteer your time for the benefit of others and realize that you have made some sort of an impact in someone's life. It may not be the biggest sacrifice or even seem significant at the time, but it's truly astonishing how any slight effort makes some sort of a difference or leaves some kind of a footprint.

"Sometimes, the smallest things take up the most room in your heart."
-Winnie the Pooh

Those are the moments that remind you that life isn't all about you. In this day and age, we have so much to focus on: school, work, etc. We're all busy, but never too busy for the things we enjoy. It's important to use that time to help others, help your community. At the end of the day, that's how we will leave our mark on the world. We will make a difference through the lives we touch and the bonds we make.

Once we stop focusing selfishly on ourselves and just attempt to do the right things, everything else simply falls into place. Things might not always end up the way we had predicted or hoped, but that's what makes it all even more exciting. Things may not always turn out how we want them to, but in the end, they turn out how we need them to. We could begin to feel something that we thought we were no longer capable of, something we thought we had lost somewhere down the road. As frightening as that can be, it reminds us that there is still a slight chance of having the things we had given up on. Only time will tell, but in my case, the reminder was very much necessary. And as scared as I may feel right now, at least I'm not numb.

4.03.2011

Attention without Intention

As a woman, I've gotten hit on in all kinds of ridiculous ways and heard some of the most outrageous and sometimes even utterly disgusting and disrespectful pick up lines you can imagine. Nothing is really unexpected from guys, but here's the real question: how is it appropriate for a girl to hit on a guy?



I have plenty of male friends, and after talking to a few of them, I have found that even most guys don't know. They don't like it when a girl is too aggressive, yet they rarely catch on to subtle hints.

So what exactly is a girl supposed to do? Look cute in hopes of running in to him? Sneak a letter into his bag asking him out to lunch? Or simply convince herself that if it's meant to be it'll happen?

I'm not one to play games. I actually find them completely immature.

Yet, we all partake in them. Why? Everyone wants to have the upper hand. We want to test others to ensure that we have the power. However, the problem with that is, most of time it's the game-playing and mind-fucking that will drive others away.

The world would be such a better place if everyone was just straight-forward. Games are a waste of time. Just tell it like it is and call it a day. Unfortunately, no one wants to forgo the power over someone else's emotions. Is the power worth playing with someone's feelings? I think not, but I'm sure most would disagree.

The idea of power also makes me question it's effect on people's choices. I've seen far too many amazing people settle for less than they deserve. Although loneliness can be a factor in this, I believe it also has a lot to do with intimidation.

We want someone we can be comfortable with, not someone to compete with. The ones we are attracted to are also the ones that we hesitate to approach. Call it nervousness or intimidation, but deep down it's fear of rejection. Why can't someone attractive also be approachable?



Simply because we like to stereotype and make assumptions.